Peace

I have a love-hate relationship with the Internet. I love it because it connects me to people and ideas that span the world in more ways than any of us can imagine. I hate it because it can reveal in me a dark edge that I don't much like. (Plus it's terribly addictive and is distracting from my fiction-writing.)

That same duality exists for me at BlueNC. Things can be bubbling along beautifully and then all of a sudden, meltdown. I hate it when that happens, and it's been happening too much lately.

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Years ago I participated in a series of courses offered by a company called Landmark Education. For those who may not be familiar with Landmark, it is the current incarnation of the infamous "est training." In one of my courses, I learned there are three main sources of upsets: (1) unfulfilled expectations, (2) thwarted intentions, and (3) undelivered communications. Whenever any of these circumstances is present, upset is guaranteed. Whenever we have high drama at BlueNC drama, I see them all.

Another thing I learned is that the best response to upsets to declare a breakdown, which I am hereby doing.

We are having a breakdown.

For most people, declaring a breakdown is an uncomfortable act. They see it as some sort of failure. For me, it's the exact opposite. A breakdown is an opportunity to create a new possibility that can lead to a breakthrough. Possibilities are created through the power of our words. It goes like this:

The possibility I'm inventing for myself and for my life is the possibility of being _______

The magic of possibilities lies in filling in that blank with something powerful enough to touch, move and inspire the world. And if the truth be told, that is why we are all here. To touch, move and inspire the world with our possibilities.

Over the years, I've invented possibilities for being fully self-expressed, for being powerful, for being generous, for being understood, for being aware, for being free, for being honest, for being steady, and more. Each possibility has arisen in the wake of different kinds of breakdowns.

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Another important thing about upsets is that they are grounded in past. We all carry around crap from our pasts, and most of the time those pasts gives us perfectly predictable futures.

By inventing possibilities, we have the opportunity to choose futures that are not artifacts of the past, but are instead beacons that pull us forward powerfully. That is the kind of possibility I am seeking now.

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There will always be upsets. The true measure of a person lies not in his or her ability to avoid them, but rather in how gracefully and quickly we can recover and move on. That almost always requires apologizing. I apologize to everyone here for not being on top of things and for whatever I have done to create an environment that fosters upsets. I will do better.

The possibility I'm inventing for myself and for my life is the possibility of peace.


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I feel a little bit like Miss Congeniality right now

Go easy on me.

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Saving Private Anglico

I feel a little bit like Miss Congeniality right now* Anglico

Oh stop feeling sorry for yourself.....You got the number one site in this State with big name political candiates and office holders sucking up to this site everyday to see what the latest scoop is in North Carolina politics....It's a total success with your co-horts and it is making big changes in this state with your enemies freaking out over the least little point..

Whether you know it or not, Miss Congeniality attended East Carolina her freshmen year and they tossed her out for being lazy and having a uncertain future in the Arts......When one is at the top of their game. Some retire and become a living hero or role model to others....In your case, you have a much higher goal....you are trying to save this screw up nation that is going south so fast it takes a full time small info site like Blue NC to break it's barbarian speed to the dark ages...

Congrats Private Anglico and your Army

Wow Max

well said!

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Max ate his Wheaties!

:)

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Thinking postive for North Carolina info Commerial?

Max ate his Wheaties!*Betsy Muse

Wheaties my butt! If Anglico was dispress, he should be me at the moment, My Canadian Viagra supplier double his price last week to take advantage of the dollar fall. I had a high tech super duper Defridillator, pacemaker, cell phone, pager, GPS Global Positon Satelite, installed in my chest 3 weeks ago at Duke and I just got the bill from Duke today, 60,000 grand to put it in, 90,000 grand for the device with a 5 year warranty, Hell I am worth more than my house, 6 SUV's and this is being pay by Medicare and who says there is not a medical crisis in this country with the taxpayers being stuck by big medical corporations.

I was informed by my Christian republican neighbor that my Campaign Dog was gay when he was accuse of assaulting his pink cat " Coy".at the dog and cat walk park with witness to the crime.

My Solider of Forture newsletter was cancel since they were drafted by the Blackwater group last week. Liddy Dole campaign still sends me fund raiser letters telling me that she is holding the fort down from those Communists in Moscow and that a mob of Gays have surrounded her house in Salisbury and that is why she can't come to her home state. She says that Atheist liberals have seize Chapel Hill and blocked interstate 40 causing massive traffic jams for voting republicans.

I order a surf board for my grandson and homeland security visited my house searching for a waterboard without government approval...meaning that I got to hire a lawyer to defend myself from my grandson who snitch me out. It could get worst and it did when I lost my false teeth and now I have to gum down my Wheaties and that is not a petty sight to my wife in the morning. In fact, I have been bitch slapped so many times by her as if I was at a John McCain political meeting discussing how evil Hillary is.

It a brave new world out there and somebody has to keep a stiff upper and lower lip to fight those bastards at the John Locke foundation about Polar Bears getting free welfare food stamps in this global warming fight. Yes! I have to stay postive like that stupid F### lawyer Doctor Frank Dies, who really believes that Davidson will win the National title in College Basketball this year.

Say it brother!!!

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke

Easy....you can't take easy

I am proud to say that I've been a member of BlueNC for 1 year and 18 weeks. In that time I have learned so much about politics and the Old North State, all because of you and the other fper's. I have watched as this site has gone from "just another liberal blog" to a nationally recognized progressive blog.

Unfortunately this attracts all types as you well know. But isn't this also a reflection of our state and our nation? Good Dems all have opinions unlike the Republicants that seem to be spoon-fed theirs.

This too will pass, enjoy the ride!

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You're such a sweetie pie.

Thanks, Momo. Good insights.

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Armed and fabulous?

Great. Now that's stuck in my head, right alongside that 38 Special song: "...so caught up in you, little girl, you're the one that's got me down on my knees..."

(Plus it's terribly addictive and is distracting from my fiction-writing.)

I agree. I started a manuscript last year that had me really excited. A great original premise (meaning there have been only 50 similar ones), a perfect medium for character development, and an ideal opportunity for me to fuse Southern Fiction (my muse's preference) and Science Fiction (my preference).

But...it's gone nowhere. I've written a few decent short stories since then, but my attention span has been dictated by the Internet. There's so much going on, it's hard to focus on a long-term project. How's that for a rationalization? :)

There will always be upsets. The true measure of a person lies not in their ability to avoid them, but rather in how gracefully and quickly we can recover and move on.

You're absolutely correct. And until we get past the primaries, there are going to be many other possible conflicts here. And it's going to be up to each and every one of us to temper our responses and keep our minds open. I'm going to do my best.

heh.

Armed and fabulous. That's A all over!!! :) And Betsy and Linda and Mo and you SC and LiberalNC and Sam and blue and .... oh, heck ... even Max. ... I'm forgetting about a hundred people here, of course.

I think the awesome thing about blueNC, besides the insight and analysis about NC politics and issues that simply CANNOT be found elsewhere is exactly this. Right here.

Dust ups happen. People get ticked. But then people calm down and hopefully stay around.

A lot of us have met in person at one time or another at this or that event. I think that does help. It makes a difference to me anyway. I know there's a good chance I'm going to have to look any registered blueNC user in the eye and say "hello" in the future. So, I'm ok with the knowledge that I may have to stand behind my words in person or apologize for them in person. Still ... there are days and threads in which my comments require a whooooooole lot of editing. ;)

"They took all the trees and put them in a tree museum Then they charged the people a dollar 'n a half just to see 'em. Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone? They paved paradise and put up a parking lot."

Hey A., just for a chuckle, head over to the Dome

There is a post there about a bill sponsored by Burr. The title of the article is "Burr Champions Chimp Bill". (Unfortunately it has nothing to do with Bush, that would have been too good.).

I had no idea that our junior senator was so concerned about our fellow primates. I like the idea behind the bill; I just wouldn't think it would be a priority for a senator.

Sandra Bullock - nice - Can't go wrong with Sandra Bullock.

I did notice that the version of Miss Congeniality that you are identifying yourself with comes with a .38 automatic. Speak (type?) softly and carry a big "stick", eh? :-)

Person County Democrats

I saw that . . . amazing

The Burr likes chimps enough to go out of his way to save them. Poor kids needing health insurance? Not so much.

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The tag says it all - while we do have to commit to certain amount of overhead, both technical and organizational, to keep things running smoothly, I think what makes BlueNC special is the content - there is some chaff in the wheat, and some days it may seem like a mouthful of straw, but the signal to noise ratio is some of the best I've seen.

Caring more about 100 chimps than millions of human children in the US? (insert Harry Taylor quote here)

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I have to say

that Max said it all.

And that scares me. :)


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

I know.....

I'm floored.

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You know what I've been thinking?

I turned 37 today, so I'm in a festive and positive mood (especially knowing that I'm still 16 mentally).
I've been thinking that we've all been way too negative on here lately and the one good way to solve that is for us all to get together, face to face, in one room.
I know it's the one thing that Anglico hates but people tend to be a lot friendlier when they're actually standing right next to each other instead of just typing away, alone and isolated behind their own computer screen.
I think that a BlueNC "conference" or however you want to call it, is long over due.
What I mean is a big get together of as many people as possible that regularly drop by our little corner on the intertubes. I know it's probably a big job to organize something like that and I'm more than willing to help out.
I just feel that whatever little petty differences we all have with each other, what really binds us together is one big common "enemy".
The only way we're are going to be able to conquer that enemy next year is by realizing that what ties us together is much stronger than whatever separates us.

Left on 49

Those differences resurface once we're back behind our screens

and the folks with the most differences are probably those who would not attend so they could remain anonymous. It's a great idea to get together, but it isn't going to eliminate the negativity.

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Happy Birthday

Almost forgot!

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Happy Birthday

and great idea

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke

Happy Day LibNC

how will you be celebrating today? Did you take off work? I love the get-together idea too...maybe it could be in Moore Co. Anyone interested in golf?

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We could finally meet SPLib

and find out who he/she is!

No matter that patriotism is too often the refuge of scoundrels. Dissent, rebellion, and all-around hell-raising remain the true duty of patriots.

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Especially for my birthday?

You know you've made it in this world when you have your own hate page.
Did you know i was ugly?
Hilarious :-)

Left on 49

Hahahahaha

I wanna go to the Christmas party! Hahahaha...I'm going to be laughing at that all day.

You have gotten under their skin. Great job. Keep it up!

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yeah, don't you love getting confirmation...

of the fact that what you're doing is making a difference?
I consider that page a badge of honor :-)

Left on 49

I thnk I've posted before

my dad found out he was on Nixon's enemies list - and had a party.


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

That is so funny

We could all probably have a party and would be safe to celebrate being on Bush's enemy list....or at least Robin Hayes' list.

You're not careful missy, Howie is going to come after ya.

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hah.

As we speak - Jay Ovittore is getting ready to officially launch his campaign against Coble in Greensboro. He's young, energetic, and not a zombie like Howard Coble. Oh, and also, he's a Democrat, holds progressive values, and is better at communicating via the interweb than old Howdie Coble ever dreamed of being.

This is a party day at my house.


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

Jay is reported as being a blogger.

according the local FOX affiliate.

video link

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Progressives are the true conservatives.

He is a blogger

Here is his personal blog. And here is his new one.

And loftT - he grew up in our neck of the woods.


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

Does anyone else find that disturbing?

first they talk all this hate and alien fear mongering, then remind everyone about their CHRISTMAS PARTY...wow, real Christians. (not)

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You know - they give the contact info for their xmas party.

We should all go!!

Heh heh heh.


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

Peace

Writing is hard work. Being a public person is hard work. Important to recognize the realities, good and bad, that those things impose upon you.

I find long walks with my dog very healthy at such times. She doesn't read my blog, and she is very forgiving of my many flaws.

You are building something powerful here. Thank you for that.

I have one very special dog

Bailey, who seems to know when it's time for Mom to get up and go for a walk. She loves me when I've been a bitch at work. She loves me when I stay up too late and can't get up in the morning. She loves me - the way everyone should be loved. No wonder God and Dog are a palindrome. They both love unconditionally.


Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi

Thanks.

I know you deal with plenty of the same stuff year-in and year-out. If I can find the same kind of grace and ease that you have, I'll be one happy blogger.

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Basically James, you have said "tomorrow I will do better"

That is the exact message that should motivate us all today, to do the same.

When we actually try to attain that "Tomorrow I will be Better" mentality and determination, things really do, to greater or lessor degree, get better.

I see this energy in BlueNC every single day. I am glad I found all of you.

Now ...about tomorrow.........

Marshall Adame
2014 U.S. Congress Candidate NC-03